“Politeness costs nothing but buys everything"
And always remember; what we permit, we endorse”
This is one of many great quotes my dad used to say that is still engraved in my head today…
Unfortunately, I never understood the hidden meaning behind it until I became a little older, a lot wiser and freer.
Way before then, I totally misunderstood the conception of politeness he tried to instil in me growing up...Showing respect to others became the equivalent of a reflexive compulsive apology.
My burning need of apology became my chronic bad habit in everyday situations …
Prioritising myself #Sorry
Asking for my well deserved seat at the table #Sorry
Sharing my ideas and opinions #Sorry
……..
Oops!…I exist!… #Sorry
I felt sorry for myself because of my deep fear of being disliked…of course, I am primitively driven to be liked but why do I apologise for everything?
This is not the value of politeness my dad tried to teach me!...And as the years go passing by; this endless demeaning cycle knocked my confidence!
I know old habits die hard…
So I had to quickly self- diagnose… and heal myself…
I had to build my courage muscle…
I had to be ok with being disliked…
I had to kick the apology habit out of my life!
I started counting my apologies…
I had to improve my self-awareness…
I had to pause, think about the nature of my apology and retain my mouth if I don’t mean it!
Back to my dad favourite quotes- “Turn your tongue seven times before speaking...This way you have time to think if you ought to say the things you want to say”- Ronald Barthes
#stopover-apologising
I am only sorry when I make mistakes and I genuinely mean it!
This post is dedicated to my dear friend Garbout Mehdi who keeps reminding me to stop saying sorry!
Always Unstoppable! 🦋
Xoxo,
Hindy
I m so grateful and lucky to have you in my life Hindouch ! You are the human being who deeply forever impact my life with your genious continuous priceless friendship and support. I m so proud of what you are and how inspiring and expressif you become.